Identify your emotional style

We each have our own style, that unique combination of hopes, fears, values and behavior that make us human.

Each style has a primary emotional issue that defines it. The question is if our issues keep us from reaching our potential, if these issues have reached that self-sabotage level. They can create problems if we do not face them.

RULE TO REMEMBER: Not confronting your issues will open the door for self-sabotage.

The process of facing these issues (and your emotional style) will help you build strength and understand yourself more completely:

Admit your emotional style
Recognize your triggers and your responses to them
Create new thoughts and feelings based on the facts
Have those available when triggers arise

Tara Bennett-Goleman's "Emotional Alchemy" is a great source of information on these 10 emotional styles. She provides much detail. These are just brief descriptions to help you get started:

Emotional Styles

Abandonment
Entitlement
Subjugation
Exclusion
Mistrust
Failure
Unlovability
Perfectionism
Deprivation
Vulnerability